But that very phrase, "You're gonna want a cup of coffee," was uttered to me by my then 14-year-old oldest son. I had stumbled into the kitchen his freshman year of highschool early one morning to make him breakfast. I'm a good mom like that. And as I stood there with very scary hair and just my right eye open (don't see out of my left one anyway, so why open it until I've been awake for at least 30 minutes?), my beautiful boy said he wanted to talk to me about something. At 6:30 a.m. My heart thudded, just a l-i-t-t-l-e bit. Then he dropped the bombshell: "You're gonna want a cup of coffee...it's about a girl..er girls...."
And my charming and enchanting young man invited me in to be included in his first forays into being interested in the fairer sex. What a priviledge. And he's been including me every now and then and giving me glimpses of his heart ever since, too. How blessed am I?
That sweet young teen is, as of last Monday, a young man of 18. I haven't been by here much, because I just really wanted to savor every moment that I have left with him still (semi) at home. His last paycheck had 72 hours for 2 weeks. He's a high school senior. He has a real girlfriend now. And lots of others demanding a little piece of him. I don't see much of him, but when I do, I treasure every second. Even if I am just sitting listening to him in the background play either one of his guitars or the XBox 360 he is way too addicted to. Still and all, he is just about one of the best kids on the planet. And I'm not just saying that. Everyone who meets him goes out of their way to tell his dad or me the same thing. He was recently honored in a very special way at his school for being a "Selfless Senior," an honor given to only one senior boy and one senior girl in each local high school. His response? "I don't deserve that." Selfless.
So, happy birthday son. I love you. Your brother will be 16 next Monday. It does funny things to my heart to know that you both still want to celebrate your 1 week apart birthdays together. "Hold on to 18 as long as you can....changes come along real soon make us women and men...." Or was it hold on to 16? I can't remember now...
Pretty much this is still how it works between them, too.